Should I stay in a country because of jobs or should I move?

Post date: 2020-12-02 12:05:33

I am in a tricky life situation and I need some help. I am currently living in a country and I don't know if I want to stay here. Don't get me wrong, I have enjoyed many aspects of my life here and I cherish the experiences that I have had but this country is lacking for me on the personal side. People here are very distant and aloof. Communicating is also a challenge. I do speak the local language but not perfectly. That has led to a lot of awkwardness and misunderstandings in my interactions.

I have also had a number of difficult or not satisfying experiences with former romantic partners. My job contract is ending soon and basically I am free to leave if I want to. What makes me hesitate? I really enjoyed my job here and jobs are much better here than back home. I come from a small place and there are no jobs there. I could go to a bigger city in my country and I would find more opportunities there but nothing is certain. Given the current situation, it is even harder. I have seen some jobs offers here and there that are compatible with my background but I don't know if I should apply. I guess the jobs seem exciting per se but I am not sure I want to live in the cities where these jobs are offered, because they are in the same country where I am now. I do find that living here can be nice but not over the top nice, just normal, tending to boring nice.

I have savings and an apartment back home and I could easily get by for some years if I went back there. I also feel that maybe jobs are not as important as I think. But the future might get tricky down the line if I don't find a stable job in the future. Not having a good job could affect not only my financial situation, but also, my self-esteem and even my relationships. I have had a number of experiences with men who didn't respect me because my job situation at the time was not ideal. But honestly, the job situation might not be as bad as I imagine at home. I just don't know if I should look for jobs here or just in places that I think I will enjoy more (that would drastically reduce the pool of jobs available, because many of these jobs are concentrated in this country and a few more).

I guess that what I want to ask is: what do you think I should prioritize in life? Should it be work? Should it be living a place that I find pleasant? I have become very indecisive about this and it has paralyzed me a bit. I sense that there is a blind spot in my thought processes and I can't quite pinpoint where it is. What would you do if you were in my place? Could you give me some advice? Thanks for reading.

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