|Since as far back as I can remember, I have been plagued by an intense, pervasive fear of experiencing brutal retaliation following any form of confrontation, regardless of its severity. Specifically, this is the fear of violent home invasion or arson while I sleep. My therapist has told me to meditate, which has not been helpful, but does anyone have any tips and tricks for feeling safer at night, or any anecdotes and/or statistics to help alleviate this fear?
A little more context: Today, my husband engaged in a screaming argument with our neighbor's lawn worker after they blocked our driveway. He often times gets in loud fights, and he doesn't really consider who it is he's fighting with. Now, I'm sitting locked in my home office, fully awake, fearing that an intruder will forcibly enter our home.
I am planning on getting an alarm system, although my husband is against it for privacy reasons - so if anyone has a privacy-friendly alarm system they can recommend, please let me know!