I often hear the advice that people should only have children because they really, truly want them, not because our society says it's a necessary milestone in life. This seems very sensible to me, but got me wondering - what does really, truly wanting kids feel like? Is it one of those "if you have to ask, it's not for you" situations, or is there room for ambivalence? Particularly looking for perspectives from folks who are (or would be) the child-bearing partner in a family. |