How do you handle dinner debates with you partner?

Post date: 2020-03-25 06:56:58

Who chooses what to eat for dinner and how much accomdation is needed to for the other's preferences?

My partner and I have somewhat different preferences when it comes to dinner and meal planning. He like simple basic foods and is more of a meat potatoes kids guy. I like a lot more variety in what I eat and in some cases if I've had a late or large lunch might skip dinner altogether.

The caveat here is that my partner doesn't cook. He probably cooked about 5 times in the 6 six years we've been together. It becomes more work for me to make multiple meals or versions of meals, which is the last thing I want to do after a long day at work. In addition, we have a toddler, so I also have to make something for him as well. My partner doesn't cook for him either but he will heat premade food up.

Early on I tried to accommodate his test prefences and scaled back what I liked to eat but after years of this and now juggling a toddler, I've thrown all that out the window. I've adopted a new stance: You'll eat what's cooked for dinner and if you don't like it you can make something else on your own or cook and plan dinner for a change. I feel that as an adult he's perfectly capable of feeding himself, and that I really need to spend that energy on our son, who does need someone to cook for him.

This approach has caused some tension though, because he was used to having more things that he liked, refuses to learn how to cook, complains about leftovers and seems to get frustrated on nights I only cook for our son. Is there a better way to resolve this other than my my way or the highway approach? I'm fine holding my ground (honestly it's be a huge relief) but maybe there's something more tactful?

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