How do I deal with the Queen Bee at my new job?

Post date: 2019-11-18 09:22:15

I've been at my new job for about 5 months now. While it's better than my last job, it's not exactly my "dream job." I'm having trouble fitting in- The Queen Bee doesn't seem to like me. She's the boss's "right hand" person, so I can't go to the boss. What should I do? (Snowflakes inside....)

My main problem is with my coworker "Minerva". She seemed wary of me from the start. She makes conversation, but will ignore what I say and will pay attention to my other coworkers. She went out of her way to train the new male hires in the department, but seems cold and short with me. She doesn't say "Good morning" to me in the morning and ignores me if I say it to her, but will greet everyone else.

She seems to think it's odd that I'm not married with children. That's all she wanted to do, blah blah blah. She also gives me backhanded compliments like how I could be very pretty if I just wore more makeup, better clothes, exercised, etc.

She's very curt when I ask her work questions, yet warm and friendly with others. She'll ask me personal questions and it makes me uncomfortable. If I'm having trouble with something, she seems to take pleasure from it. It's a small office and we all sit close with one another, so I can't avoid her or distance myself from her. I know we'll never be best friends, but it is wearing on my patience.

She's twice my age, which doesn't matter to me, but maybe it does to her? She's also oddly possessive of our coworker "Fergus". I was laughing with Fergus and Minerva made a comment about how his "wife will get a complex." We were just laughing about something that happened that was work related. Otherwise we barely talk and when we do, it's about work.

Minerva is the boss's "right hand" person, so I don't feel comfortable going to the boss. I haven't been there long enough to know if there is anyone else to offer insight.

I've been in situations like this before, but never know what to do. Is there anything that I should be doing? Any thoughts? Any advice?

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