Do I cancel this trip?

Post date: 2019-11-09 09:08:06

I was going to visit someone romantically. Then I find out this person is dating our mutual friend when I thought otherwise. Do I cancel the trip?

I have been getting to know someone well who lives in a different city, "Sutton."

However, we have a mutual friend who I met her through, "Avery." Initially, Avery was interested in her. Then Sutton made it clear she was interested in me. I asked Avery if it was ok we explored things, and Avery gave permission.

Fast forward two months. Sutton flew up to see me, and we had a great time. Sutton was very forward about her interest and finding another time to hang out. We've been talking almost every day. Sutton says that she is not interested in Avery. I make plans to fly to her city.

Then I let Avery know I am going to visit her (as more of a FYI). Avery tells me that Sutton has also been talking and that they were talking about a date.

I call Sutton and she confirms but says it's "ambiguous" and assures me that we are more compatible.

Overall I find the situation super weird. I don't care if we date other people - the issue is that it's not what I thought the situation was based on Sutton's communication. And I definitely don't want to date someone my mutual friend is dating.

I am not sure how to move forward. I think I need to cut my losses and not go on this trip anymore. It's a big bummer as I found a lot of things about her really interesting...but I would feel very uncomfortable seeing her. Am I overreacting?

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