How do we wedding?

Post date: 2018-12-18 13:56:25

We have some of the specifics sorted, but are clueless in other departments.

I am newly engaged. We are having a Scottish Christmas wedding in December 2019. We have chosen a venue (Scottish castle in Victoria BC), a caterer (who will be serving festive canapes and is willing to do scotched quail's eggs for us!). We have chosen MacDonald tartan in lieu of a wedding colour, and dark red roses with Scottish thistles and heather as flowers. Our officiant is a quick witted, well-spoken poet friend with the right amount of gravitas. We will have two attendants each.

Here is what we aren't sure about:

1. Should we engage the services of a wedding planner or decorator? The venue will be partially decorated for Christmas, but I do not want to fuss with centrepieces etc. on the day of. I think at the very least, a day of coordinator could be useful to make sure everyone is standing where they should be at the right times. My partner and I are awkward people who struggle with figure out where to stand and when to talk in life, let alone at a wedding. I have the sense that wedding planners are very expensive. We are somewhat budget conscious because we're spending a lot on catering and venue.

2. Do we need an emcee? How do we choose one? Poet friend / officiant would have been the obvious choice, but they'll be busy being our officiant. I don't know if we know anyone else who is charismatic.

3. I want my attendants to be comfortable and not spend an exorbitant amount on anything wedding related. We are a same sex couple, and I will be wearing a dress while my partner wears a suit of some kind. I will have one male and one female attendant and my partner will have two female attendants. Does it make sense for all the female attendants to wear the same thing and the male attendant to wear something else? Or should the female attendants on the different sides wear different things?

4. I am thinking of asking attendants to wear a black dress of their choosing, to which we will attach a tartan sash with a brooch. Is it weird to have black at a wedding? Another option is a burgundy dress, but I think it doesn't look as nice with tartan, and I don't know how to make sure it's the same kind of burgundy without dictating where people can buy their dresses, which I don't want to do.

5. Is making my own centrepieces difficult? Can anyone direct me to a decent tutorial? I don't know a lot about decorating, but I'm an avid Pinner.

6. I would like to have beer, wine, and gluhwein. Or beer, wine, and a cranberry/champagne cocktail or a rum and eggnog. Is this widely appealing?

Please feel free to weigh in on any question where you might be able to lend experience and/or wisdom.

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