What to do with kiddo gets pushed around at the playground?
We often take our daughter to our local playground. When there (and it seems more frequently as she gets older -- she's five) there are some playground bullies (not the same ones each time, just different kids we run into.) They often take her bucket and spade, and sometimes push her, or tell her to get off the swings, whatever.
I am a "take the high road" type -- i.e., tell them it's not appropriate, I (not my daughter) takes back the spade, etc., we walk away if they start to push. They go low, we go high, right?
My partner (who admittedly takes her more often) is the opposite, and even tells her it's OK to push back, and even encourages this, saying that she should not think it's OK for other people to walk all over her, and that she should learn to stick up for herself. Pushing back is OK. Bullies who get what they want stay bullies.
Help me resolve this dispute! Who is right? Is there a "right" here? Surely we should be consistent, right? |