Recommendations for CBT-oriented therapist in NYC

Post date: 2018-04-19 21:14:25
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Spouse is looking for a CBT-oriented therapist in NYC who also has expertise in sexual issues. We have some questions.

Spouse has always had issues feeling spontaneous sexual attraction towards me--but he has also always had issues feeling sexual attraction towards other partners he has loved, including a former spouse. He's only felt strong, spontaneous sexual attraction to people he hasn't been as close to, like strangers or less close, less long-term dating relationships. Of course, there is a long history behind this and Reasons, and he has been in emotionally-focused therapy for many years but has not found it helpful on this particular issue. He is seeking a therapist to help him integrate love and attraction, and to help him deal with what he can already identify as unhelpful thought patterns that he falls into. He feels that he'd like to try CBT for this.

A quick search shows that CBT doesn't seem to be used for sexual problems (although "sexual problems" generally seem to be different than what I'm talking about), and he wrote his EFT-therapist about this idea, and she replied rather strongly that she couldn't imagine CBT could be helpful here. His feeling is that EFT has not helped with this (though it has helped with other, underlying trauma-related issues) so he doesn't see the harm in trying something new, especially since he feels his issue is very thought-pattern based.

So this is a two part question.
1) Has anyone had experience with CBT for this type of issue, and if so, can you share it?
And

2) Can anyone recommend a CBT-oriented therapist in the NYC area who also has expertise in sexual issues?


Notes because I am already anticipating certain responses: I'm not going to DTMFA; we have an otherwise good marriage. We are able to have sex and enjoy it (this is very much an in-his-head issue and doesn't manifest as ED or anything). There was porn involved, there hasn't been for years (yes i am sure). There is no infidelity.
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