Disability - 'it's not really noticeable'/'I couldn't tell!'

Post date: 2021-03-03 09:52:10

I am disabled because of having a stroke. I didn't think the effects would be permanent but they are. I have aphasia and fatigue as the main things. I am so sick of other people saying things like 'I didn't notice much' or 'I can't really tell' when it comes to the aphasia and brain fog and all that stuff.

That's when I share details about my condition with new people, or when I mention things to people I already know. At the beginning I would kinda pander to them, because I guess they were being nice?? Now I feel like people just keep telling me that I'm doing really well at not appearing disabled.

So, do you have any good examples of pushing back on this? Ideally I'd like to make people think about disability in more inclusive/compassionate way rather than focussing on appearing 'able' and 'ok'.

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