I feel like if I never had sex in my life again, I could be totally fine. But is something wrong? Am I missing out on life?
I, late 20s F, have never really enjoyed sex. I've only had sex with one person, my current partner (who is male and the same age as me), and back when we were younger I was definitely hornier, but then it pretty much petered out after a year or two (and we didn't have sex that much either). The only way I have ever had an orgasm is through masturbation. I don't even masturbate these days and even if I do, I can't really orgasm, or if I do, it feels like a "weak" orgasm. I don't really like porn although sometimes it does get me aroused ... but actually, even when that happens now, arousal sometimes causes my genitals to just kind of hurt and feel like they can't actually achieve orgasm, which is sort of new (within the past 2-4 years)... it's like maybe parts of me are somewhat aroused but everything else isn't enthusiastic and that results in an odd discomfort.
I've never had an orgasm from penetrative sex, and I've never had penetration feel comfortable (it always feels uncomfortable, if not actively really painful). I also never really liked oral sex either - never orgasmed from it. My partner measured his penis and apparently it is considered really large(?), about 7.5-8 inches and also quite thick, so I am not sure if that's part of it. My partner and I basically do not have sex, which I think he misses but is tolerating. We have a happy, very affectionate and cuddly relationship otherwise.
My lack of interest in sex doesn't bother me and I rarely think about it, until every now and then I hear about other people my age having all this sex and I wonder if there is something wrong with me or grossly atypical about my experience. The problem isn't even actually the sex anymore, it's that it has now developed to a point where I don't even have an interest in masturbation / it doesn't do anything for me.
Hormonally, there was a time where I wasn't regularly getting a period, so the low estrogen and testosterone probably would have explained it, but I get a very regular cycle now so I think my hormones are pretty much normal.
No particular cultural or religious beliefs about sex that would be inhibiting me. No trauma. No health issues that I know of aside from low blood pressure. I don't think I identify as asexual but I certainly kinda feel asexual. I guess I should probably start with a doctor, but I just wonder if anybody has ever experienced something like this and remedied it. |
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