I remember reading a contemporary Japanese novel, in the same vein as Oe or Murikami, about a single man living in an apartment complex (?) and he kinda had a fling with a lady. At one point he bonds with a gay man (?) trans woman (?) and muses to himself: "someone so sensitive to the warp in themselves must surely be so sympathetic so my own weirdness" Or something like that. I definitely remember "warp" being part of the line. What's the quote, and what's the book?