I'm a nice person. Really!!

Post date: 2020-02-26 04:35:09
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I need advice on getting a teenager to not hate me. Dating a divorced dad with a 15 year old son. More below....

Sorry if this is long, but I want to lay out the information all at once. Dating a man (we are mid 50s; I am female; I have two grown sons who live with me) that I was friends with first then it developed into a really wonderful relationship. We've been dating since last September. He has custody of his 15 year old son. Ex wife sees son (by choice) once a week for dinner and occasional weekend days. No over nights, by choice. She has a live in boyfriend. She and my guy have been divorced for three years. Son wants nothing to do with me and it hurts. I am not trying too hard. We don't spend much time together because he visibly bristles at me. This past weekend, BF and I got back from a day out, and were discussing a photograph, when Son came in from being with friends. BF greeted Son; I said hi; and got crickets. When I left 10 minutes later, I said "see ya!" and was ignored, and after BF walked outside to walk me to my car, Son nearly slammed the front door shut.

What can I do? Do I just keep on being low key and pleasant? (I know I would not tolerate that kind of rudeness when my kids were that age). I didn't react; BF even noted that it was rude. I know Son is a little socially awkward; used to have some difficulties in school but has worked hard enough to get him off of needing an IEP (Individualized Education Plan). I'm not planning on replacing his mom, he has one. I did once make a joke to his dad that I loved where they live (I do!) and kidded that I was moving in (we could see Bald Eagles from his yard and I love bird watching). Apparently that upset him, even though his dad said it was just a figure of speech.

Please, anyone have any experience with this? I'm hoping for some coping tips, or just reassurance that it's not me - that he would be like this to anyone his father may have brought home.
Adding that his mom told his dad that he was horrible to her boyfriend in the beginning too. We generally see each other only once a week or so, or sometimes we have dinner after Son has gone to dinner with his mom. I am gone before he comes home. BF lets Son know ahead of time when we have plans for our one day together.

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