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Sexual assault, but need references from my attacker

Post date: 2019-10-28 19:53:46
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Took my mentor teacher out for dinner to ask him to write me a reference. Obviously I should have had my guard much more up. But I never thought of him as a potential threat. Content Warning: details below the fold]

After supper, I was about to head home. But he wanted to go out for drinks. I know that he doesn't have a lot of friends locally, so I agreed. Who likes to go to bars alone? But I said after two, I needed to head home.

I remember drinking with him, and at some point being outside vomiting and opening up my phone to call a taxi. The next few hours all I have are vague impressions.

When I woke up, I was completely naked in a strange bed. I put on my clothes and when I went to the living room, my boss was sitting on the sofa. He asked how I felt, and when I said disappointed, asked if I meant in him or in myself. He then followed me outside badgering me about what it means for our working relationship and telling me that I seemed into it.

Clearly, I want to move on to a new school now more than ever. But I still need references from him. If we weren't overseas, I would have strongly considered pressing charges. But how in the world do I deal with this logistically?

I took the morning after pill, I guess I need to see about going to the doctor for an STD screening. But how in the world do I explain to any future jobs why I don't want them to contact my mentor teacher?
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