My dad has dementia, money, and a 20-year-old fiancee.

Post date: 2019-09-13 15:03:03

My nearly 80-year-old father has been seeing a young woman from Asia. My siblings and I are terrified that she's going to take everything and leave him with no money for the very expensive care he'll soon need.

Dad is in his late seventies with very obvious dementia. He went for an initial doctor's visit and the doc recommended geriatric testing, which he's refusing to get, so he has no official diagnosis that would allow the family to intervene.

Hi fiancee lives with him and they're scheduled to marry next week.

It started out as an immigration thing - he was helping her out so she could immigrate and then bring her kid over. There's an agent involved who brings these women to the country. The women pay the agent and pay the men, although my dad refused any payment.

He's getting quite confused and it's clear he's being manipulated and deceived. He has always had prenups in his previous marriages (yeah, he's had a colourful history) and was planning one this time but somehow the appointment, scheduled for earlier this week, never happened.

The fiancee says she's an accountant in her home country (not true according to someone we know from the same city) and now has convinced him to let her be his accountant, so she has access to all of his accounts and paperwork. One of my siblings found spyware on Dad's phone sending large packets of information out of the house.

We are freaking out and fear she is going to either marry him without a prenup then take everything, or just steal his identity and take everything that way.

We are scared to call immigration because if we alienate dad he might just shut us out and then we have no hope of being able to stop this.

Is there anything we can do? We have dad's lawyer's number. This lawyer is who's scheduled to marry them. Can we ask him to intervene somehow?

(We're all in Canada.)

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